I’m always searching for fun opportunities to have one on one experiences with my kids individually so they remember the special places they hold in my heart. Being a mom of two, I strive to intentionally carve out designated time for each child to connect and create those core memories.
In the hustle and bustle of modern life, it’s easy for us parents to become consumed by work commitments, household responsibilities, and endless to-do lists. However, amidst this whirlwind of activities, one of the most valuable investments we can make is carving out quality time for our children. This intentional time together not only strengthens our bond but also has a profound impact on our children’s emotional, social, and cognitive development.
Here’s why prioritizing quality time with our kids is so important and how to make it a part of our daily lives.
1. Building a Strong Emotional Connection
Spending quality time with our kids fosters trust and security. It shows them they are valued and loved, which forms the foundation of a strong parent-child relationship.
And a little bit of quality time can go a very long way.
When kids feel emotionally connected to their parents, they are more likely to share their feelings, seek guidance, and develop resilience to face life’s challenges.
How to achieve this:
Set aside uninterrupted time each day to engage in an activity your child enjoys, whether it’s reading a book, playing a game, or simply talking about their day. It truly does matter.
2. Boosting Their Self-Esteem
When parents dedicate time to their children, it sends a powerful message: “You matter.” This affirmation bolsters their self-confidence and sense of self-worth.
As humans, we all crave that connection to others, and setting a strong foundation at home so they’re not subconsciously searching for it from the world is key.
Children who receive regular positive attention tend to perform better academically, socially, and emotionally.
How to achieve this:
Celebrate their accomplishments, no matter how small, and offer encouragement during their struggles. Make sure they know their efforts are recognized and appreciated. Be genuine in your approach and remain authentic when communicating with your kids so it can be well received and have the intended impact.
3. Encouraging Healthy Communication
Spending time together creates a safe space for open communication. It allows you to better understand your child’s thoughts, feelings, and concerns while also teaching them how to express themselves effectively.
How to achieve this:
Engage in meaningful conversations during meals, bedtime routines, or car rides. Listen actively, ask open-ended questions, and avoid distractions like checking your phone. This is an area that I need to improve on because even though I’m a self proclaimed “queen multitasker”, I need to make sure that I’m fully engaged when I’m actively listening to my children.
4. Teaching Life Skills
Quality time isn’t just about having fun; it’s an opportunity to instill values, teach problem-solving skills, and model positive behaviors.
As much as I would love my children to consider me a best friend later in life, there is a time and place for everything, and being the person to teach, mold, and discipline them during their formative years is incredibly important.
These shared moments can shape your child’s character and decision-making abilities.
How to achieve this:
Involve your kids in everyday activities like cooking, gardening, or planning a family outing. These moments are rich with learning opportunities.
5. Creating Lasting Memories
The time you spend with your children today becomes the cherished memories they carry into adulthood. These moments will remind them of your love and dedication, shaping the way they build relationships in the future. I often talk about creating “core memories” every chance I get because the seemingly mundane daily experiences we have all add up to what they will remember as their childhood when they’re older.
How to achieve this:
Be intentional about planning regular family traditions, such as movie nights, weekend adventures, or holiday traditions to create a bank of joyful memories.
6. Reducing Behavioral Issues
Children who spend quality time with their parents are less likely to act out or seek negative attention. They feel secure and supported, which helps them develop emotional regulation and a sense of accountability.
Building self-esteem is a gradual and deliberate process that truly begins at home and manifests in how our kids present themselves to the world.
How to achieve this:
Stay consistent with your presence, even if it’s through small, daily interactions. The predictability of your involvement fosters a sense of stability. Even though it may not seem like it, just a few minutes per day can have a profound impact on our kids.
As busy parents who juggle a lot day to day, I for one know how tough it can be to carve out meaningful & undisputed time for our kids.
Although finding the time can be challenging, it’s not impossible. Here are some practical strategies:
● Prioritize: Schedule family time as you would any other important appointment.
● Unplug: Set aside distractions like work emails and social media to focus entirely on your child.
● Be Present: Quality outweighs quantity. Even 15-20 minutes of undivided attention can make a significant impact.
● Incorporate Your Interests: Share hobbies with your child, such as biking, painting, or playing music, to enjoy quality time together. This way, it’s a win-win for both parties involved.
When we carve out quality time for our kids, it’s an investment in their happiness, growth, and well-being. It’s a gift that keeps on giving, strengthening our relationship, and equipping them with the confidence and skills they need to thrive. Remember, it’s not about grand gestures or elaborate plans—it’s about being present, engaged, and intentional.There is power in simplicity, and quality time is king.
So, pause, unplug, and make time for the little moments that mean the most. Your kids will thank you for it, now and in the years to come.
We’ve got this!
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Dr. Tiffany Ofili Porter 